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as I keep changing my mind what to do next. Hope to settle on something & keep to it, I do not like this chopping & changing! Not usually like this, most times know what I am going to do & keep to it until finished!

Have been rather miffed & disgruntled recently as last item I made as a gift for a friend never even received a Thank You. Not been a happy bunny since then really. Person was out so left it with a neighbour & not heard anything back. The neighbour is reliable as she's occasionally passed on things before so do not know why I didn't get an email acknowledging the pressie. Person concerned doesn't have my phone number but has occasionally emailed me so no excuse really. Was not expecting them to go overboard of course, as I chose to make it as a surprise gift, but a 'Thank you' would have been nice. And it was really appropriate as they had a cat like that several years ago & we've often laughed about it's cattitude & what it got up to!

Oh well, you can't please everyone but I'm afraid it still rankles & they are off my Christmas card list!! Sorry for rant, tried not to let it upset me but it has - will just have to put it down to their bad manners! Not a major thing compared so many other things which have been occurring like flooded homes but it is strange how small things get under your skin, just like the thorns of roses. Onwards & upwards now I've got it off my chest. Will make sure I am more cheerful next time I add a post on here.

Don't apologise Izzi this place is great for letting off steam! Is there any way you can check to see if the recipient did receive it? I find that bad to not even say a thank you especially such a thoughtful gift that has taken time and effort to make. I hope you can decide which to stitch next. Maybe wait and see and then it will come all of a sudden! I was finding it really hard to decide which one to do after Billy as I have so many and love them all but decided to do 'The Meadow' as my friend had a wild bunny that kept appearing in his garden so that made me decide! All the best xxx

Thank you Nicola. I know friends of the person concerned but only see them very occasionally. We're not in constant touch but stop & chat about cats amongst other things whenever we do meet. Will go to the town where friends live & see if I can spot them out shopping, that's the only way I will find out apart from knocking at the recipients front door. That would cause embarrassment for her & also the neighbour who took gift in. Thank you for suggesting it, kind of you. I will have to put it down to experience as not everything brings happiness but I was so excited about giving her the crafty cat. Could say it was my fault for getting too carried away as it is 'only'' a x stitch I have done.

I would have felt exactly like you did and it is not "just a cross stitch". It is something that you did putting not only time but care and affection into it. A thank you is a reasonable expectation. Perhaps the neighbor put it to the side and either misplaced or forgot about it. Perhaps she forgot who it was from? I don't think it would be out of order to ask if she received it the next time you have contact with her or with the neighbor. In the meantime know that this is a very very good place to let off steam.

Carole

Thank you. I did put it in a pretty gift bag with hearts on it & signed the card attached so she would know who it was from.

Yes, it does hurt when there is no acknowledgement but I hope that it can be sorted. Perhaps the neighbour has been taken ill or forgot to pass it on?

Whatever happens I hope that you can soon find something interesting and fun to stitch. Dare I suggest the fabulous Wrendale Designs by Hannah Dale? They are adductuve abd bring a smile to the face just looking at the kit pictures.

Thank you Sally. It is kind of you to mention Wrendale Designs which would be a great idea as I love the owl. Even though Very Crafty are cheaper I can't afford a new kit at the moment. Will give x stitch a weeks complete rest, not even sorting out stash, & then go through my kits & blackwork book in the middle of next week. The blackwork lighthouse is one of my favourites form the book, although done in different colours, still blackwork style. And a seahorse which is lovely.

I know exactly how you feel! You spend hours stitching something special for someone, sent it and A BIG FAT NOTHING!! in return.

As you know I've been sorting out my dad's house. All the items I stitched and all the photos I sent of his grandchildren have been thrown into a corner with all the rest of the rubbish!!
Now I could feel hurt and upset....but I know him all too well.
His 'precious' Jazz CD's, LP's and his stereo system have gone to the Local Community which would annoy him no end!! He never gave anyone anything.

A small (slightly childish) triumph on my part!!


So my advice is....sort out your Stash and you may just find that your stitching Fingers start to Itch!!

Thank you for your advice Wendy. I am so sorry you had to find all those personal things you had given your father with love & no thanks from him. I would have been mortified if either of my parents had done that.

Very glad to hear you have managed to rise above it. You are doing a grand job of clearing out his home & multiple other things. So glad to hear you had the last laugh by giving things to charity as he never ever gave anything away & rising above the slights he has given you in the past. You deserve a medal for all he hard work he has left you & your DH. Hope your new found friends are still coming round to give you both a boost. Even a few minutes of laughter lightens the load. They sounded really lovely people.

Shame you still have not fond a way to get to the title deeds. Hope it sorts itself out soon for you, anther conundrum to sort out. Onwards & upwards is the way to go & you are doing that.

Oh Izzi, don't be disheartened. I am pretty sure that there is an explanation.

Years ago, I knitted a jumper, with a "Forever Friend" bear on the front, for a friend's first grand child. I never heard a thing until 10 years later, when I met the mother of the child I knitted for. By then, she had 3 more children She told me " You know the jumper you knitted, it was quite long and all 4 girls loved it and they all wore it "
People are funny sometimes but it does not mean that your gift was not appreciated.

I can't wait until you pick up your needle again...