Hang in There Gramma

Angel · Post by **Angel** » Thu Mar 13, 2008 6:16 am

So some of you may know about my gramma. She went into hospital back in January with an infection and was having a hard time recovering from it. She was bound to the sofa and the chair. Then a little while later she was diagnosed with cancer. This was back in February. It hit me pretty hard as my Gramma is like a second mom to me. Not yet over her operation, they can't take her back in for a second operation to remove the cancer, not that it would matter if they could. And it won't respond to treatment such as Chemo.

Well I ordered a chart to do for her. And I was showing my dad my progress on mums chinchilla when it arrived and I told him "This one I'm going to do for Gramma next." And he told me...he said "Well you'd better do your grammas first if I were you."

I eventually asked him what kind of cancer she has. He doesn't know, but it's in at least two places. The bottom of her bowls (I think he said) and her liver. So even if they could operate, it's not organs that can be removed.

So I've decided that I'm going to do my grammas before I finish my Egyptian one. That, and I'm slightly bored of doing the Egyptian backstitch.

Pictures will be posted, as always, at the end of my shift.
This is what it will look like once complete:

Jilly · Post by **Jilly** » Thu Mar 13, 2008 7:19 am

She will love it Angel

Angel · Post by **Angel** » Thu Mar 13, 2008 7:20 am

Thanks, But the way my dad was talking....I hope she gets to see it.

I've only done a foot so far *pets kitty foot*

Jilly · Post by **Jilly** » Thu Mar 13, 2008 7:31 am

Why don't you show her what you are doing for her, then keep showing her your progress, it will give her something to look forward to in the same way as we enjoy SAL's.

Angel · Post by **Angel** » Thu Mar 13, 2008 7:37 am

Hmmm, I could do that. Although, I won't get to see her till next friday anyway (woes of working the night shift. I used to see her at least once a week before). I know she's pretty bad because of how high she is on morphene, but my dad, who knows more than me, is talking like the end is in sight. *stitches more*

Jilly · Post by **Jilly** » Thu Mar 13, 2008 7:43 am

I see your problem, At least your Dad is being straight with the situation.
I have to go, work calling.
Take care Angel

Angel · Post by **Angel** » Thu Mar 13, 2008 7:45 am

He wasn't going to even tell me what was going on (because I'd soooo forgive him for that

). Now I don't know if he's being honest or pessamistic as it's his mum so... *shrugs*

Have a good day at work.

And co-incidently I'm logging off to go home from work. So here's my first progress picture. You can't see a lot of if because it's white on a light blue background.

Anyways, it's the left foot as you look at the cat.

mags · Post by **mags** » Thu Mar 13, 2008 8:48 am

I've always loved that picture, Angel. Your Gramma will love it.

As Jilly said, show her what you are doing, it will give her something to look forward to.

wendywombat · Post by **wendywombat** » Thu Mar 13, 2008 8:57 am

That's wonderful! It will make her smile, which will help her recovery no end!

Little Stitcher · Post by **Little Stitcher** » Thu Mar 13, 2008 9:04 am

Sorry to hear about your Gramma...I'm sure she will love it

~threadbear~ · Post by **~threadbear~** » Thu Mar 13, 2008 9:09 am

That's lovely Angel. I'd show it to her as well. I'm sure it will make her happy.
It's a lovely design, I haven't seen it before, but it says it all really doesn't it. It's perfect for her.

coffee_freak · Post by **coffee_freak** » Thu Mar 13, 2008 12:20 pm

she will love it! sorry to hear of her troubles...

Mabel Figworthy · Post by **Mabel Figworthy** » Thu Mar 13, 2008 4:14 pm

It's a lovely piece to stitch for her -- do let her know (if only through your dad) that you are making her something special; I'm sure she knows you love her but we can all do with being told so, can't we? and this will surely tell her in big letters!

In my native tongue I'd like to wish you 'sterkte', that means strength to get through what life is throwing at you right now (never found a good translation for that). I'll pray that you finish it in time for her to see.

PaulaH · Post by **PaulaH** » Thu Mar 13, 2008 4:48 pm

I've seen that chart and love it - Your gramma will love it, give her a hug from me.

Paula xx

Angel · Post by **Angel** » Thu Mar 13, 2008 8:33 pm

Thank you. Yes I saw it and it just seemed to sum it all up better than I could in words. It really is perfect for her and soooo cute.

Unfortunatly wendy, My gramma isn't going to recover, it's spread too much. A fact she has delt with, but no one else can. A sign of a good strong woman who is well loved I believe. She can accept her own death and make jokes and sort things out to make everything easier for us when she's gone, but everyone around her can't accept it.

Mabel, what language is that? Thankyou very much, and it does sound so much better in your native tongue, I don't think there is a good translation for it.

Mabel Figworthy · Post by **Mabel Figworthy** » Thu Mar 13, 2008 10:34 pm

Jayms_fallen_angel wrote:Mabel, what language is that?

It's Dutch, and although I am quite at home with English now, occasionally I come across things I can only say in my own language -- just as there are things which you can say in English which you couldn't possibly say in any other language.

But it's good to know that "I love you" works in any language whatsoever!

Angel · Post by **Angel** » Thu Mar 13, 2008 10:41 pm

I don't think I've ever heard Dutch spoken. But you're right, there's a lot of things I can't even say in proper English, but can express in "Crazy northern language" As my boyfriend calls the Yorkshire colloquiel (Can't spell) words.

I think you can't truely say I love you. Not in words. The strength of the words has been lost or never existed to begin with. I was talking to my dad and I told him I never told him enough, but I do love him and I don't know what I'd do without him. And he said that I do tell him. Not verbally but how I act with him, how I look at him and how I talk about him tells him that I do love him more than the words ever could. My gramma has said a similar thing too.

Rose · Post by **Rose** » Fri Mar 14, 2008 12:34 am

Words can never say as much as a touch or a thoughtful deed and that is what you are showing both your dad and your gram.

People facing death sometimes have a better handle on what they are going to face then those left behind to miss the ones that they have lost.

Stay strong and enjoy the time that you have left treasure it. I know some of the best memories I have of my dad are the years he was the sickest and the special (just time together) that we had in the end. I was many miles away but we still found time to talk and appreciate each other. He is in my heart for ever

. And your gram will be in yours.

Angel · Post by **Angel** » Fri Mar 14, 2008 12:55 am

*nod nod* My gramma is always in my heart and mind. When we were little both my mom and dad worked full time so my gramma looked after me and my sister while they couldn't. She is like a second mom to me and is always in my mind and thoughts. I've asked my dad for a photo of her to put in my bedroom, so I'll never forget what she looks like either. I don't take many photos myself.

I'm trying to stay strong. It's hard sometimes because of how close we are. I spoke to her on the phone teusday and do speak to her a fair bit, but she's so tired all the time so she can't talk for long. I cherish her and I will always cherish her memory. Even the memories that are making me cry at the moment.

Thank you

Angel · Post by **Angel** » Fri Mar 14, 2008 8:03 am

Again, there's a lot you can't see because my phone can't tell the difference between white and blue