Hi there Puzzley,
Firstly, Olivia is just adorable.
Secondly congratulations on the prospect of a sibling for Olivia.
On the question of which thread to use, HAED refer to DMC threads in their charts (apart from the odd time when kreinik number 32 is used, which it isn't in an of those lovely charts you've got your eye on). If you're in the UK, I recommend Across Town Stitching
http://www.across-town-stitching.talkta ... index.html" target="_blank" target="_blank for buying DMC threads in bulk.
If you go to the offers section on the left hand side of the menu, she sells 50 skeins of DMC (or Anchor) for £16, 100 skeins for £31 and 150 skeins for £44. That's much cheaper than I've found anywhere else. For fabric, Cross stitch heaven
http://www.cross-stitch-heaven.co.uk/25 ... 4470-p.asp" target="_blank" target="_blank sells the DMC magic guide in 18 count and 25 count in all sizes, plus she can kit up a HAED for you if you ask her.
One thing I would recommend is that you do some experiments with different fabric counts to find the one you are happiest with. I started one of mine doing full crosses on 25 count using 2 threads and have restarted tenting (doing half cross stitches) as it was getting so bulky and difficult to stitch. Donna at cross stitch heaven will send you samples of fabric for you to experiment on, all you pay is postage.
If you're in the US, I gather from our friends across the pond that 123 stitch offer a very good service.
Godd luck with watever you decide and remember to post piccies of your stitching (and adorable family!!

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